I have been doing a lot of thinking lately and I wanted to tell you something that's been bothering me. It's difficult for me to say out loud but I need to get it off my chest.
So here goes.
When I first started treating clients (With massage originally) I had this huge problem with underestimating what my clients could understand. But since I started to work through more of a biomechanics process I realised that it was not my clients that had a problem understanding. The problem was ME. And HOW I explained the information to my them.
And so I started to explain to them what they needed to know in a way that hadn't been done before. I began telling them stories to get the information across, I showed them visual aids to help them process what was happening. I always wanted my clients to realise that we were in this together, that I understood what they were going through.
And the more I did this, the more I engaged my clients which meant that our relationships developed and became trusting. And it's this trust and understanding that is vital if people are to reduce pain and move more freely. Each of my clients is a person and not a number. Which is why I am physically and mentally exhausted at the end of each day.
It's also this developed relationship that leaves me feeling responsible for each of my clients' health. And THAT is difficult to take on.
Because at the end of the day, as much as I hate to admit it, not every client is a 'success story'.
And the fact of the matter is, I just can't 'fix' everyone.
There I said it….That is my CONFESSION!
I cannot help everyone!
Sometimes I have to refer. Other times I sit and question what I need to do. And more often than not I get back to researching how I can help even more.
Because sometimes it's from my lack of 'tools' or knowledge that I can't help them (which is and always will be, increasing all the time).
But quite often it's because they have their own issues. Whether it be poor diet, stress issues, refusal to change their 'bad' habits or simply not listening to advice.
I try to not NOT tell them something because it will offend. I realise that they need to know what is happening and where they need to make changes. But sometimes it just doesn't get through to some people.
And when I can't help, it's truly heart-breaking especially if they don't feel there is anyone else who can either.
It's taken years and years, but now I realise that I am NOT responsible for my clients getting better.
Maybe they're just not ready to change? Maybe fear of change is holding them back? Maybe there is something that they are not telling me. I don't know.
All I do know is that Pain is multifactorial. And it's super f$%king COMPLEX!
I once heard Lorimer Moseley say that Sometimes we just have to realise that no matter what we do, we can't help everyone. And while that fact hurts more than anything, it is also unbelievably reassuring to know.
I hope that, even with knowing all this about me, you will continue to read my posts, ask for advice or get in touch when you need help.
Because even if I am not able to help directly, it doesn't mean I won't try and guide you in a direction that might!